Merubi

What is the 1 thing you did this year that will define 2009 for you?
2009 for many including myself, will be the loss of Michael Jackson. But for me, it will be remembered more for the painful loss of my dad. I hope he is enjoying himself moonwalking away with Michael up there. With the recent natural disasters that happened – in Taiwan, Padang, Phillipines, India, lost count, it sure is getting crowded up there.

What about you? What did you do or experience that will mark the year 2009 for you?

Not leaving things undone until it’s too late.

People talk about living life to the fullest – live it once, live it to the fullest. But the emphasis is always self-centered. Its all about doing or trying things out for yourself – like bungee jumping, going on a backpacking holiday, etc.

Its hardly about doing things for your loved ones around you – who will be mourning you when you are gone and vice versa, of course. Why not think about your loved ones again and think of what you want to do for them in this lifetime (theirs and yours) before its too late?

Tell your loved ones you love them and do it not as a lip service

Hug or kiss the people you love if you feel like it, no one’s gonna reject your hug unless he/she is a stranger

Forgive and forget quickly any misgivings of your loved ones, don’t harbor grudges – they are not worth a cent

Treat everyday as its your last day on earth, say each goodbye with earnest and sincerity

Cos when you leave it till it’s too late, you may never get to do it in your lifetime

Do you have any estranged relationships that were once close and dear to you, whether with God or human? Maybe its still not too late to mend it.

Love is like a building.

Before marriage, the relationship is like the construction of a new building. During this stage, should there be any fundamental flaw, serious problems may arise after the building is completed, for eg. a shaky or slanting building.

During construction, there will always be new problems cropping up like soil issues, lack of materials, costs exceeding budget, site accidents, etc – these are like lovers’ tiffs which occur once a while, some more frequent or ferocious than others.  Some tiffs can be resolved, like construction issues, but some can simply not be resolved and the project is called off.

If the relationship breaks down before marriage, the half constructed building is left abandoned. In future, if things patches up, the construction picks up again and there is a chance that the building may see the light of the day.

Marriage is like a completed building. In the honeymoon stage, things are just sweet. Similarly, a building gets new furnishing, everything looks new and at its best (probably this would be the best it will look in the entire lifespan of the building).

The completion of building does not mean that problems will end, it just mark the start of a new set of problems, for eg. burst pipes, water leakage, etc. In a marriage, new set of problems arises – from living together, finances, in-laws, children, etc. It takes effort to maintain and renew the marriage, just like any building. Badly maintained buildings just look dead while well maintained buildings maintain its lustre – the amount of effort put in = state of the building/marriage.

Renewal of marriage wows is akin to a building undergoing refurbishment and everything looks good and new again but the structure remains unchanged.

Should there be fundamental flaw not addressed in the initial stage , it may come back and haunt the marriage. In the case of the building, fundamental flaw could lead to building safety issues, etc. Some flaws could still be repaired, in more severe ones, it may be technically impossible to repair – it could even lead to the collapse of the building.

When a marriage breaks down, both parties leave the relationship – some amicably, some with bitterness. In the case of the building, the occupants leave the building and the building is left in an abandoned state or torn down by the authorities.

Do you think this is a good analogy? I am going to lobby for MCYS and BCA to merge….since they are duplicating work and wasting taxpayers’ money.